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@ TNH
2023-11-24 20:45:33Old Happy: "I'm not in control of my life."
New Happy: "I am responsible for the choices I make in life."It happens to everyone: you get stuck in your daily routines, you feel like nothing will ever change for the better, you believe that you're destined to stay right where you are. You say things to yourself, like:
“There’s nothing I can do.” “It will always be this way.”
“There’s no path forward.”When you feel this sense of helplessness, there is one trick that you can use to break out of it: make one different choice.
Could you...
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Drive or walk a different route to work?
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Make something new for breakfast?
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Do a few stretches when you get out of bed?
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Tell someone how much you appreciate them?
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Visit that place you've always been meaning to go?
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Treat yourself with kindness in a difficult moment?
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Let go of an expectation?
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Send an email to someone you admire?
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Ask for help?
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Be open and honest about how you really feel?
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Call someone you have lost touch with?
Do something weird. Do something funny. Do something surprising. Do something you've never done. Do it the opposite of the way you usually would. Whatever you do, just do something different.
These choices might seem small. But they have a power well beyond their size: they prove to you, definitively, that you do have agency. You do have some control here. You are not helpless, you do not have to stay stuck, and you are in charge of you. Even the smallest of choices can open you up to wonderful new possibilities.
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