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2025-02-24 10:43:20
Let’s explore the concept of understanding the mindset of a narcissist. My intention is to provide insight into their thought processes, as I believe this could be beneficial for individuals who have recently experienced rejection or are struggling to comprehend how swiftly a narcissist moves on to a new person, embarking on a new journey and adopting a seemingly different personality.
Many of you may already be familiar with this topic, but it never hurts to revisit it.
The emergence of narcissism in early life is a subject of debate. While some attribute it to traumatic experiences, there is ongoing discussion about whether narcissism results from environmental factors or the presence of a Cluster B personality disorder. The question arises: is narcissism inherited, or is there a genetic predisposition for such conditions? Regardless, it is evident that narcissistic personality disorder exists. It serves as a defense mechanism, allowing individuals to construct a false self, shielding their true self, and rejecting any criticism directed at them. This fabricated persona portrays them as flawless and intolerant of injustice, granting them a sense of superiority and omnipotence. The underlying reason for this is their failure to progress beyond a primary stage of development—specifically, beyond the age of seven—when they establish connections with the external world. As a result, their perception remains self-centered, much like a child's, and this pattern persists throughout their adult life.
The way narcissists are structured and their personality, shaped by a fabricated identity, is clear. Maintaining this false identity is imperative for them, as it defines their very existence, much like our own identity defines us. Their personality disorder thus serves as their core identity.
The narcissist’s thought process is fundamentally different from that of a mentally healthy and empathetic individual. They hold a deep disdain for qualities such as kindness, love, loyalty, compassion, and empathy, as if these values were polar opposites to them. Instead, they actively embrace and promote cruelty, apathy, lack of remorse, deceit, dishonesty, and exploitation as tools for navigating life and ensuring their survival.
We observe two opposing ends of the spectrum: light and dark, each representing different value systems. At some point in their youth, narcissists made a conscious decision to create a false mask, which then became their true self. They chose to live life in this way, unaffected by external influences. Their approach to life revolves around taking from others without engaging in self-reflection. In contrast, other individuals engage in introspection, learning how to grow and integrate into society in a healthy manner. They embrace the balance of giving and receiving, demonstrating empathy, understanding, kindness, love, fairness, and compassion while still thriving independently, generating their own happiness without the need to steal qualities or material gains from others.
In essence, this can be seen as the creation of good and evil. This is the narcissistic mindset. They are always right, they know best, they are superior to everyone, and they operate in the world through manipulation, deceit, and covert games—believing they are playing a superior role, assuming their targets are unaware of the game being played against them.
These individuals believe in their own superiority because they engage in a game that remains undiscovered. Paradoxically, they maintain a false sense of victory, which ultimately proves baseless. However, within the narcissist’s mind, a person who displays kindness and compassion is perceived as weak and unintelligent. Consequently, the narcissist derives amusement from this perception and views it as an opportunity for advantage.
They believe that all normal, empathetic people are not living the "right" way, that their approach to life is flawed, and that we are fools. In their minds, we are idiots waiting to be exploited, deserving of whatever happens to us because we are, in their view, stupid. This is how a narcissist thinks: "You are such an idiot for living this way. People will exploit you, and the superior ones will always win."
In relationships or any other situation, individuals with this mindset view others as mere assets to be used for their own benefit. They believe they are superior to those around them and that anyone who spends time with them should consider it a privilege. While they may resent having to interact with empathetic people, they recognize that doing so is necessary to obtain the good things in life that they cannot achieve on their own. Ultimately, they seek to extract the values of their victims, keeping them around only for as long as they are deemed useful.
Yet, at the same time, they resent having to do this because they believe they are even superior to their own concept of a god. It is a deeply twisted mindset, but we must understand that narcissists despise love and people who are kind, good, and simply normal human beings. They loathe you for being that way. If they return to you or attempt to, it is only to take more from you. In fact, they despise you even more if they feel forced to return to you. Their sense of superiority makes them resentful of needing you, but they have no other choice because they cannot exist without someone to feed them—they cannot generate their own sustenance.
This situation can be described as a complex and dysfunctional cycle in which narcissists perceive themselves as superior while simultaneously relying on others for survival, success, or any other need. This contradictory behavior lacks logical coherence and can be attributed to the chaotic nature of their personality disorder. However, understanding this behavior can be extremely beneficial. Recognizing that narcissists hold deep contempt for others—though difficult to accept—is a fundamental aspect of their personality structure.
To them, we are idiots and enemies. They see us as easy prey, feeding on us and leaving us to recover, only to return later for another feeding. They can discard us effortlessly because, in doing so, they reinforce their sense of superiority ("I can do whatever I want to you"). They genuinely believe that normal people are fools and that we deserve everything they do to us—and more.
I hope this insight helps you grasp the narcissist's perspective and recognize their distorted perception of the world. Understanding this can significantly aid in resolving the cognitive dissonance we experience when trying to comprehend how effortlessly they discard others. Their interactions lack genuine connection; their actions serve only to fulfill their own needs, entirely devoid of love.
They leave you easily because they see a better dinner waiting in someone else’s home. They return because your dinner was exceptionally good, and they don’t want to miss out. They will keep coming back until you say no. And they will always look down upon the world—especially people with strong character, a kind heart, those who navigate life exceptionally well, are highly popular, incredibly resilient, and true super empaths.
That is their most delicious meal.
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