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@ Jdwagner17
2025-05-04 18:19:55
1. It’s not your responsibility to save anyone.
2. It is your responsibility to be your true self. That may include helping those you want to help for whatever deep seated reasons you may have. I won’t question the origins of those, but you should.
3. Your wife chose 26 year old you for reasons. Figure them out, and that may explain the behavior. What did you offer? Why did she need it?
Women appreciate power. You must respect your will to power. Sometimes overcoming a woman’s request, and competently changing the world around you can have the counterintuitive effective of gained respect from a female partner. You trivialized her fear through success. How long has it been since you have demonstrated your power to her? To keep her resources secured, she will worry when she believes your reach exceeds your grasp.
I don’t know her. But I know most women do not respect a man that they can overpower. This may be an opportunity to plan carefully and demonstrate that you have the will and the power to do it. Should your wife ever need you to do that for her, it’s best to have kept your strength exercised.
P.S.
Let him pay you. It will demonstrate to him and your wife that you have boundaries. Take it away when he can’t. You can always give the money back later in secret if you want. Just an idea.
Wishing you the best in whatever path you choose.