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@ Subema
2025-01-30 09:37:26
The idea of the **Bean Bag Game** is quite ingenious. I read about it on a BDSM-positive blog. Here’s how it works:
1. **Setup**:
- Take a small cloth bag and add **10 white beans** (rewards/pleasure) and **10 black beans** (punishment/discomfort).
- When it’s time to play, draw **two beans**:
- **First bean** (the *tone*): Determines if the activity will be **pleasant** (white) or **uncomfortable** (black).
- **Second bean** (the *task*): Decides whether you get a **reward** (white) or **punishment** (black).
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### **Combination Interpretations**:
- **Black + Black**\
*"No fun, just work."*
- Boring/challenging tasks you’d normally postpone: **window cleaning**, **scrubbing bathroom tiles**, **polishing shoes**.
- Could also mean **no playtime** (e.g., "Go straight to bed"). Pure duty – no pleasure, only discipline.
- **White + Black**\
*"Work with a twist."*
- Punishment or chores, but with a *kinky edge*:
- Clean the bathroom **wearing a vibrating butt plug**.
- Wash dishes **with nipple clamps**; add a clothespin to your body for every minute over the time limit.
- Still **no orgasms** – the black bean ensures denial.
- **Black + White**\
*"Pleasure with pain (or humiliation)."*
- Mix stimulation and discomfort:
- Ride a dildo **with weighted nipple clamps**.
- Give a "lap dance" to a teddy bear with a strapon.
- Chat online as a "perfect plaything" for others **without touching yourself**.
- Again, **no orgasms** – the black bean overrules the white.
- **White + White**\
*"Lucky draw… but denial is optional."*
- Freedom to indulge, though I often choose **self-denial** anyway. Examples:
- Edge for 30 minutes, then ask permission to climax (50% chance).
- Use toys freely, but end the session frustrated.
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### **The Dynamic Ratio Twist**:
- The starting **10:10 ratio isn’t fixed**. Adjust it based on behavior:
- **Good deeds?** Swap a black bean for a white one.
- **Mistakes?** Replace a white bean with a black one.
- Single beans can also decide smaller stakes, like:
- *"Should this edge turn into a ruined orgasm?"*
- *"Do I deserve dessert tonight?"*
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### **Why It Works**:
- **Control**: The beans dictate your fate, but you tweak the odds through obedience.
- **Flexibility**: Use pairs for major tasks, single beans for quick decisions.
- **Psychological tease**: Even "white + white" can mean denial – because *you* choose the rules.